Carli's Ferocious Fours were hitting our house pretty hard and these parents were about at their wits end as to how to best handle the defiance and attitude not to mention the emotional roller coaster. After talking and searching and getting some insight from a few experts (AKA grandparents), we decided to try a little coin system that we read about online. More than likely I saw it on pinterest and forgot to pin it. We took this idea of making each girl six coins of something that she values. Each day she starts of with six coins. If she is defiant, talks back or does not behave she loses a coin. She earns back the coin when she is polite, minds when first asked to do something or is caught being nice. At the end of each day if all six coins are still in her possession she earns a sticker. When she gets ten stickers, she earns a surprise.
It took about 14 days for the girls to earn their first surprise. They were so excited when they got their tenth sticker. They are always asking to go to the ice cream restaurant (Braums) so we took them the next day to have ice cream for lunch. We let them pick out whatever they wanted, soft serve with whipped cream. They thoroughly enjoyed getting to eat ice cream!
Since their first surprise at the end of October, the girls have earned two more surprises. Carli has really responded to this system and it helps us as parents too to make sure we are pointing out the positive in her behavior instead of seemingly always pointing out the negative.
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